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How To Find Sanity In An Insane World by: Sandra T. Spalding, M.S., NCC, CCMHC In order to answer the question above, we have to go back to our beginning. The problem is that in the beginning we did not have the words to describe the emotional trauma of landing on earth. Therefore, without words, there is no mental ability to recall. As an adult, however, I can look back and see that each and every one of us has been emotionally traumatized. As vulnerable, frail, dependent, and originally very sensitive beings, birth alone had to be traumatizing to our emotional selves. The painful sage continued until 0 - 6 yrs. we were emotionally shaped as our sensitive innate beings were assaulted and bombarded with strange and unlabelable stimuli. In order to cope with all of this we slowly, but surely, shut down our feelings. This was not a cognitive decision. We developed defense mechanisms to stop pain. Some of these used today are as follows: our minds are splintered with many competing thoughts at a time and we are used to it; our breathing is very shallow; we use solely reasoning to solve problems etc. So, before we KNEW it our feelings became muted and or silent. Then, we turned to the outside external world to see how to behave and to make us into what they want us to be. This goes on from generation to generation and if you stop for a moment and take a look at what we have created, I find it frightening. I see a world of lost people and lost children with not much to look to for guidance and direction. It is time to stop - and question our early programmed and brainwashed maladaptive behavior isn't it? Why not get back on track and find the lost parts of ourselves in order to recapture who we really were intended to be? Carl Jung refers to us as half people because part of our early programming teaches us to shut down most of our shadow feelings of anger, fear, and sometimes sadness. Our shapers mean well and do the best they know how to do, but is it working? Take a real look around! Examine our many faceted facades we use like the smile on our face or the I am fine and perhaps betraying our inner truth in order to protect ourselves and others from knowing what really lies inside. The split off shadow feelings that help us to see ourselves as all good have gone deep down inside our bodies and manifest as tiredness or explodes out over nothing? Anger turned inward = depression. Since we are trained to look to externals for everything, we continue the erroneous belief that what we need or want is outside of ourselves. The bad news is that we have been trained to look the wrong way. Nothing out there is going to fix it and there is very little out there that you can change and fix to make yourself feel better. So why not stop and look inward. Go back to the beginning and explore your emotional foundation that was crumbled before you knew it. Rebuild and repair the early damage and build your adulthood upon a new solid foundation. Let's get back to your innate soul and find your own true self. Being true to yourself and not betraying your inner truth is what I believe our journey on earth is about. Begin your trip of mind/emotional/ spiritual integration. Don't miss the journey and evolution of this special time given to you to grow and learn about you!! |